A note on #Betrayal
It can be brutal, when someone — in our perceptual understanding of reality — betrays us…it can be down right heart wrenching, and mind blowing when someone we love betrays us……
It is very natural in such situations to have feelings of anger, resentment, even for our minds to have thoughts of the individual who betrayed us to meet with some negative circumstances….
How often have you heard someone curse another individual simply for bad driving….let alone when one you thought you could trust, betrays you.
So yes…it is understandable that our minds would conjure such thoughts and feelings, such ‘negative scenarios’ regarding the other person — wanting them to feel the pain, the heart ache, the shock and / or dismay that we are feeling.
And……it is IMPORTANT to honour those feelings, not to repress, deny, or otherwise villify them, for this will only make matters worse — for us.
Sure…our energy may be sent towards them, but ultimately, we are the ones who are experiencing the brunt of negative energy we are feeling and thinking, n’est ce pas ?
We are the ones holding that energy withIN “Self”.
Thus, whilst honouring these thoughts and feelings is important ( please get in touch with me if you would like to learn more of the ‘how to’ do so in the healthiest manner possible or visit my website for free tools, tips, and resources ) the best way ‘out’ of such feelings and thoughts — once you are ready of course — as soon as you can get your mind to allow, IS to focus on anything, ANYTHING that you can to be grateful for…with respect to this very individual.
No! I am not saying “forgive and forget” and “let them get away with it”. I am not saying you are wrong for feeling what you are, or that you should make less of the betrayal, or you should invite more of it or them in…..
HOWEVER….it serves us not to get lost in such negative thoughts and feelings……
Let me repeat that — it does not serve US — YOU ( not talking about them at all here !! ) to get lost in such thoughts and feelings….
You can still hold space for their ‘disgrace’, and………release your self from the imprisonment of negativity that can accost the mind when all we are doing is focusing on their betrayal, because — and with good reason — we are feeling soooo hurt…..
So again — honour the hurt, and when ready — do, Do, DO whatever you are able to, to bring to mind things you can feel gratitude for.
The relief on YOUR OWN Beingness is beeeyond well worth the effort and you — all parts of you, will thank you for it 😉 <3
Blissedly Be Beayouties
With Love,
Roni *
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